Yesterday, I had a conversation yesterday with my coworker about dating and relationships. She stated how crucial she feels the 1st three months of dating are. She expressed how that feeling of excitement that two people have toward one another in the beginning is important… Those googly eyes, the way your heart beats when you’re around them, how you want to tell them your entire life story, obsessing over that person, wanting to talk on the phone with them all day and night, etc.
“What happened to dating?” A question posed on tonights episode of Single Ladies. A very valid question, if I do say so myself. Dating, it seems, has been replaced by the “Hook=Up Culture”.
Hookups [are defined] as brief uncommitted sexual encounters between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other — have emerged from more general social shifts taking place during the last century. Hookups began to become more frequent in the 1920s, with the upsurge of automobiles and novel entertainment, such as movie theaters. Instead of courting at home under a parent’s watchful eye, young adults left the home and were able to explore their sexuality more freely. (source)
Today, with social media forums, such as Facebook, Instagram (Direct), Twitter, Kik, and
Jack’d, dating seems to have taking a back seat to individuals acting like squirrels and just finding a quick way to get a nut! The unfortunate part of it all is that our society seems to just accept this.
A friend of mine posted a status to his Facebook page that said something along the lines of, “getting married in your twenties is like going to the club and leaving by 9:30”. I read it and that instantly struck a nerve. I wasn’t upset with him, just from what he said. And the fact that the post solicited a ton of likes made it all the more worse.
What has happened to our culture? A few decades ago, getting married in your twenties was the thing to do. Promiscuity was frowned upon and individuals were outcasted for it. Promiscuity seems to be celebrated in today’s culture.
What needs to happen for the culture to shift back to what it was? Or is courting someone and monogamy a thing of the past?
What are your thoughts?