Romans 5:3 says, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, character, and hope.” Sometimes when we are in a rut and it seems like life is weighing heavy on our shoulders, we can get discouraged. It’s so easy to play the blame game with life and say, “Well, if this or that didn’t happen, I would be in a better position.” That is not the attitude to have in those circumstances. Do not allow life’s circumstances to make you become bitter and hateful or have anger in your heart. Instead, take those lessons as opportunities to be grateful for life and another change to get better. Like the scripture says, suffering produces perseverance, character, and hope. Perseverance means to persist in spite of difficulty. Perseverance builds character and strengthens your will power. There was once a young boy in foster care that was abused by his foster parents, both mentally and physically. His foster parents told him that he would never amount to anything in life. They called him dumb and stupid. They did everything in their power to break his will power. They wanted his mind to be in bondage as theirs was. Not only was he enduring mental and physical abuse, but his older step-sister was sexually abusing him. All those odds were stacked against him. He was in the valley and there seemed to be no way out.
Have you ever been so excited about an upcoming event that you start to get anxiety? You look at your calendar everyday and make off the days as they go by. One day closer to your big event, your big moment, your big dream coming true. This is what I like to call hope.
I wrote a new piece that I will share with my students in the “Conscious Poetry” class that I am teaching next week. Anytime that I write, I have to place myself in an emotion or time period to truly evoke every feeling that I feel like I should feel or did feel during that moment. When I woke up (at 2:20am) this morning, I was inspired to write about when I was twelve years old. I was in the 7th grade and I was sad. That year was the beginning of my very lengthy depression. I really had to place my mind back in that era to write this and I cried and cried as I wrote it. This is really a reflection piece. My viewpoints of God and my parents have drastically changed since that age and this by no way depicts how either of them feel about me in the present. Any, if any twelve year old happens to read this who is struggling with sexuality or identity, please realize that God loves you and that you should love yourself. Be who you are. Without further adieu.
I had a moment last night after I allowed someone to treat me a particular way that wasn’t how I like to be treated. It brought me to a really bad space in my mind. Like, I really became sad after the incident happened. The funny thing is, I don’t even think the person did it intentionally, but it still happened.
Hey, Fancy Friends! I’m coming with some brief words of encouragement tonight. So, all of last week I had a friend in town from NYC. It was so good to see him. Every time we link up, we speak about the positive things we have going on and encourage one another. It was great to be around like-minded people.
I was having dinner last evening with a good friend who happens to be a Stylist / Style Director for a magazine. We were conversing about many things, but during the conversation we spoke about how sometime we let a paycheck come before our passion for doing what we love. So it gets to a point to where you ask yourself, is this paycheck (my livelihood) more important than my dreams? Is being financially stable more important than doing what makes me happy?
I was on one of my nightly twitter rants
discussing venting about the last relationship that I was in while I was in Houston. And part of my frustration is that we never had closure. I spoke with “him” today. It was hard; it’s always hard. I never got over him. This was the one time that I actually fought falling in love; he kind of stole my heart. And I don’t really think he even tried to. But it happened. But to this day, I still love him and would do anything for him.
Hey again, Fancy Friends. I hope everyone has been well since the last blog. Today’s message is about purpose. Purpose is one thing we all have in common, because each and every last one of us have one.
John Legend recently stated at the 2015 Oscars that “more black men are in correctional control now than were enslaved in 1850.”
This quote got me to thinking about so much that has transpired in our society in the last 100 years. I recently wrote an article speaking about Modern Day Slavery and the effects that it has on society. When Legend made his speech, it brought up more feelings inside of me about the dark times that we currently live in.
“It’s what we say that determines the quality of life that we live.” Words by Da’dra Crawford-Greathouse that are ever so true and that we should all adjust and live by. Proverbs 6:2 says, “You are snared by the words of your mouth.” What this means is that we have the power to limit ourselves by what we speak. We cannot speak lack and expect abundance. We can’t speak doubt and expect favor. It doesn’t work like that. Our words are magnets and attract exactly what we speak into our reality.