My best friend tagged me in a video on Instagram a few days back. When I opened the notification on my iPhone, a clip from the classic movie, “The Devil Wears Prada“, popped up. In this particular scene, Andrea was realizing that she was turning into the exact people she always criticized and made fun of. People who live their lives for other people. Those who love the applause, the accolades, and the attention of others. Everything they do, is not for good or to benefit someone else, but so they can receive praise from it. I call it “The Celebrity Syndrome“.
Andrea expressed her concerns to Miranda, but they were brushed off as not important. “Don’t be ridiculous, Andrea. Everybody wants this! Everybody wants to be us.”, replied Miranda. In that moment, Andrea knew she had to walk away from that situation completely of she would loose her soul like so many others around her had already done.
That scene holds the key to several valuable life lessons. For one, everyone doesn’t want to be the “us” Miranda was speaking of. However, in today’s society many of us are tricked into believing that we do. We create these social media accounts where we play dress up and take 27 pictures, only to choose 1 to post that we think will get the most “likes”. We spend all of our money (even money we don’t have) on clothes, and weaves, and make-up, and jewelry to look good for other people. But what does this really say about us? Can we truly be happy with ourselves if everything we do is for the attention of others? It’s impossible. But because we see celebrities doing it, and we see our “friends” doing it, we feel the incessant need to keep up. We forget about the things that truly matter in life as they become drowned out by the fictitious and unrealistic false norms we allow society to place upon us. It’s a trap. And it’s a trap that we all set. Coincidentally, the same traps we set of others, we are caught up in ourselves. Think about it!
Like Andrea, we have to regain our focus. Stop worrying about how you appear to other people. Can you look yourself in the mirror and truly be happy with the person you are? Andrea couldn’t do it. I bet if a lot of people actually stopped for a moment and evaluated themselves, I’m sure they would realize what Andrea realized… and that is the fact that some of us have forgotten what our purpose is. What our true destiny is. We’ve been blinded by everything around us and we’ve lost our focus. But the good news is it’s never too late to get back on track. Stop where you are. Reevaluate your life’s goals and plans. Then, turn your situation around.
Another lesson this scene taught is to stay focused on YOUR dream(s). It’s easy to start off chasing your dreams, but the more you grow and involve other people in your circle, if you aren’t careful, their dreams may start to overshadow your own. You’ll look up and realize that you’ve placed your vision on the back burner in order to help someone else fulfill theirs. It’s fine to help others, but it is not okay to put yourself last. And sometimes it’s completely unintentional. Just like in the movie, Andrea took the job working for Miranda because she wanted to be a writer. She had no idea what that job would turn her into. She lost her friends, her significant other, and most importantly, she lost herself. She’d forgotten her vision to help Miranda pursue hers. That isn’t right. We have to stay focused. Don’t get so caught up in living that you forget the purpose of life.
Anyway, I hope this helps someone as it has helped me. I pray you all are still on track for your New Year Goals/Resolutions, if you made any. One of mine was to use my blog for inspirational purposes and I am doing just that.
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